Some really good thoughts and conversations sparked by this article. I've been married for 13 years, and friends with my husband 13 before that. I'd say it's the every day kindnesses that keep us going, and a lot of humor and play! Even (maybe especially) if we're stressed, taking some time to laugh together and be playful, and appreciating every day that the other person is there because they want to be are big values for us. Thanks for this lovely, balanced article.